This week, I’ve put up my purses for sale on @dclttr. I think it was more difficult to let go of these because I’m more of a purses type of gal than shoes. To be honest, those aren’t all of them. I kept some because they’re the ones I use the most and the rest were pieces that never saw the outside of my closet. It’s impractical to keep them, I know this, but it’s got me thinking about how things have changed for me whenever I’m out shopping.
Do I really need this?
Lately, I’ve found that every time I’m at a store, I’m making a conscious effort to really think hard about the stuff I’m picking up. Yesterday at the mall, for instance. I picked up a couple of blouses at Forever 21 only to put them back because even though it will only cost me less than $20 for the two, I don’t need new clothes right now. Heck, my closet still needs another purging even though it’s gone through one already. Just because the item is on sale does not mean I should get it.
My husband offered to take me to the bookstore again yesterday, but I declined because there wasn’t a newly released book that I want to read. We could’ve still gone, but I thought I might as well eliminate the temptation and not go the bookstore altogether.
Making a Grocery List
I’ve started planning dinner menus for the family. This eliminates unnecessary pantry stock, food waste, and fast food take-outs. Gone are the days when I would shop like I’m prepping for the zombie apocalypse. I’ve started freezing fruits when it looks like it’s getting too ripe then use them for my breakfast smoothies. I’ve made an effort to check what’s in the fridge, freezer, and the pantry before I make my grocery list. This way, I’m not buying more food items than necessary. I’m sure this is not an avant-garde method of feeding a family of four, but it’s a new practice for me. I’m on a quest to reduce waste, increase our savings, and actually spend more time having a sit-down meal every chance we get.
In my quest to declutter my life, I’ve found a lot of items that, in the light of day, now seem a total waste of money. I’ve never used them. I’ve donated a lot of old clothes, toys and household goods in the past few weeks. But I feel like these items are too valuable to be donated. Most of these are designer shoes and purses. So I figured, I should try and sell them. And what better way to do that than do a garage sale online?
On Monday, I created an Instagram account specifically for this venture. If I don’t get any bites, I’ll probably post them on E-bay or something. Anyway, these are the shoes that I’ve posted so far.
These are never-been-worn, still-in-their-boxes items. Prices range from $200-$350 US. Shipping will be extra, but I can guarantee you that I will only be charging the cost of shipping. I’ll be doing a regular Saturday post for the new items that were posted for the week. I’m going to sell designer purses (limited quantities) and books as well. Lord knows, I have way too much of those! So if you’ve got some time, feel free to check out the Instagram page and email me if any of these items may be of interest to you. Tell your friends as well if they’re on the lookout for some designer shoes. I think I’ve priced them quite reasonably.
I’ve never given that much thought to all the monies I’ve wasted over the years. It’s just these few weeks that I’ve realized this while I was doing a lot thinking. It is mind boggling how much. The same goes with the books I’ve hoarded over the years. But I’m slowly learning a lot things about myself, and though at times I may feel like it’s too late, I need to remember that as long as I’m alive, it’s never too late to change.
Clutter is not just physical things that constantly bog us down in our daily lives. It also comes from different sources that hinder us from having a clearer view of what’s important. Today, I’d like to talk about the clutter that we don’t see but have become blinders that we’re not aware of.
Sometimes, you have to take a look around at the people you surround yourself and figure out the role they play in your life. Just to be clear, people are not things. You can’t just get rid of them just because they disagree with your lifestyle, religion and politics. Personally, I actually find it fruitful when I engage someone in a debate about what they’re passionate about. I don’t necessarily discount their thoughts right away but I try to find what I could take away from our discussion.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about the people whose first instinct is to put other people down. I know a few. But just because I figured out who they were, does not necessarily mean I’ll ask them to make an exit out of my life. When I decided to take stock of who I am, I figured out that I let so many things and so many people control the person that I was supposed to be. And when I realize that only I have the power to steer this ship, I’ve come to realize that I can control how I react to the negative thoughts that are constantly bombarding me on a daily basis. In the same token, I can control how another person’s words affect me. I am allowed to feel hurt, but if I choose to wallow, then I’m giving it the power to turn into a festering wound.
When we’ve been hurt by someone close to us, our first recourse is to tell anyone with an empathic ear in the hopes that they’ll side with us. But the problem with that is we create a vacuum of hurt by involving people that had nothing to do with the problem to begin with. It doesn’t solve anything but only adding fuel to the fire. So the next time you hear a gossip or a negative remark about you, talk to that person directly. Don’t start a cloud of drama that will only worsen as more indirect people get involved.
It’s an odd thing to have all these time in my hands. But it sure is nice to be listening to myself and my thoughts for once. I’m not thinking about deadlines and things I have to do for somebody else. The break sure is nice, but once in a while, I let the worry creep in.