When Everything Else Becomes Insignificant

img_2504I’m sure a lot of us have been trying to come to terms with the outcome of the US’ presidential election. Some of you are probably jubilant that your candidate won. For the rest of us, however, it will probably take a bit of time (and therapy). And I know it’s hard – especially to the Americans who knew what was at stake going into the polls. So as we slowly – painstakingly find out how this election will shape history for the future generation, it’s hard not to feel anything else but fear and worry. It’s difficult to give him a chance when the people he is surrounding himself with are people whose beliefs are based on the exact things we’ve opposed him to begin with.

As a woman, and one who has followed Hillary’s career as a politician, I’m devastated. She has given me so much hope and courage to never settle, never give up and to keep fighting. Now more than ever, I’m reminded of all the ways her character has been unjustly assassinated during the course of her political life. Before she was the governor’s wife, she stood in the face of patriarchy and would continue to struggle to find her place in a world full of men who are uncomfortable with what she stands for. I, however, will always know her for the woman who fights for the children; for a charitable organization who continues to help the poor and the sick. For the environment; for the racial, social, and gender inequalities of the world.

 I will never forget what I learned in the last two years. I will never forget the hate and the ignorance. I will never forget the anger and the intolerance. I will never forget the lies and the manipulation. I will never forget to hope and be courageous. Most of all, I will never forget what she’s taught me and my daughter about a woman’s rightful place in this world.

Thank you, Hillary.

  • I’ve been struggling with this so much. It is, as you said, quite frightening. And I am devastated as well, because Hillary Clinton was just so qualified and someone who thought of other people.

  • Hugs. <3 You are amazing Joy. I am so, so sad about all of this too 🙁 I wanted H to win so badly. Sniffs. I don't think America will do well at all. Well, okay, I think the whole world is going down, but gosh, I hope not.

  • JenM

    The saddest thing for me is that Hillary really is a smart, wonderful woman who has dedicated her life to public service (unlike he who shall remain nameless). The relentless, vicious character assassination that he cynically practiced and promoted, even though he doesn’t actually believe a word of it, and the way it was swallowed wholesale by both the men and the women of this country turns my stomach. I’m not that old (only in my 50’s), yet this election has made me come to grips with the fact that I will probably not live to see a female president.

  • Yes, yes, yes! I feel like I wake up every day and re-realize what we as a country have done, and shake my head. Some of my family doesn’t understand why people are scared and worried. The people he’s bringing in are scarier than he is, honestly, so the sliver of hope we could have had is dimming every day. What you’ve said is quite lovely, and hopefully next election we will elect someone deserving of the position.

  • Beautiful. I like how you took our tragedy and made it a thank you.

  • I love this Joy. I haven’t done really anything since the election to be honest 🙁

  • <3 Love this post. She has also inspired me as well!

  • Sara Walker

    I am so glad that Hillary had such an impact on you, Joy. I am also shocked that Trump is now President of the United States, and I am concerned about what this now represents.

  • Natalie

    It’s been so disheartening these past couple of weeks. I’m definitely not looking forward to the next few years. I’m with you on HRC, she is such an intelligent, powerful force and I cannot believe she lost.

  • Love this post, Joy! A lot. I knew he was going to win by looking at history and what is happening in many other countries. I prepared myself, but still had a sliver of hope. It still hurts. Not just for HRC or our country, but knowing what is going on and where the world is heading. I wish people paid more attention to history and what’s going on outside their bubble and how it impacts us. And it infuriates me that so many people don’t look at facts and use critical thinking. And that the media allows itself to be played by the biggest troll around. I’m disgusted by the hypocrisy running rampant. I’m just sick of it all. *deep breath*

  • This is a very graceful post, and I appreciate it. I am of course disappointed that we’re signing in America’s “first reality TV star president” instead of America’s “first female president”. I really thought this was Hillary’s year. But, I think most of all, I’m disappointed by the reactions of (some of) my fellow Americans. There is a lot of fear mongering going on right now from both sides of the aisle, and that saddens me the most.

  • Thanks for writing this post Joy. It’s still hard to believe that it all turned out this way and this post is very heartfelt.

  • The state I grew up in was almost a swing state. And then the state I just moved to is a strong conservative state. For me personally, I wasn’t a fan of either Trump of Clinton. Not that I hate Hillary or anything, but there were certain things I didn’t like. But there were some things I did like. I do have family and friends that voted for both candidates. So I understand the issues and reasons.

    And the outcome really shocked me because I really thought Clinton would win by a lot, I never imagined that she would lose or that Trump has so many supporters especially with what has happened over the past month. I do love seeing her reaction. She definitely has class right? I think for me though what is worse, is how hateful and violent people treat each other. It hasn’t been so bad here in Dallas, but I know in other parts of the country its getting pretty bad. I still have hope though, that we are more stronger than we know, and hope we will stand together for what is right and good!! Love this post

  • shootingstarsmag

    Beautiful post. I can’t listen to anyone that says to wait and see how Trump does, especially now as we see WHAT he is doing. Even before that though, I didn’t trust him. It’s crazy to me how Hillary won SO many of the popular votes and still didn’t become president.


  • I’m not even American and will only be living with the secondary consequences to this election, so I can understand how it can be so much harder for you. I really appreciate what Hillary stood for, and this was such a good dedication post to her and her lessons of what she represented in the political game. Thank you for sharing, Joy. And remember that we can spread our love in ways which will matter to the people who need it most <3

  • This is a lovely post. I keep hearing people say that they are never going to let their trauma go, and I find it sad to think that any of us would want to intentionally hold onto our grief. I am not at all suggesting that it’s easy, or that it won’t take time, but I think that people’s efforts would be better placed in an action towards a continued fight for their beliefs.
    Although you are hurting, have managed to pen a positive and beautiful post, expressing your steadfast belief in HC as a candidate and your continued belief in her as a woman, which is a should move anyone, no matter who they voted for.

  • My devastation over this election is never going to die down. But like you, I’m so incredibly proud of HRC. The strength of that woman, all the things she had to hear about herself, all the death threats … I don’t know how she did it, but she’s an inspiration to me and to a lot of little girls. As for the clown and his disciples, they are getting what’s coming to them. I’m a strong believer in karma and I believe in good even though good hasn’t been winning lately. But rotten people like them always get what they deserve. And when he screws them over, I will be laughing in delight because most of us saw it coming. I don’t care if that makes me sound like a bitch, but I despise him and his supporters.

  • Yep. I know there were a lot of people who cast their vote for her, but in protest to the other. For me, I was casting my vote for HER. I voted for her in the primaries in 2008 In 2016, I voted for Bernie over her. It was a very hard decision for me. In the end, it was my concern of all the criticism of her emails, Benghazi and the like I was worried about. I thought Bernie had a better chance to beat him because of that. I wasn’t all that upset that she won over him. I think they both would’ve been great presidents. Truthfully, my vote in the general election didn’t count for much, since I live in Ohio and it went pretty red in this election.

    Melanie @ Hot Listens & Rabid Reads

  • :/ yup

  • ChristinaBookAddict

    I can’t even talk about the election. I am outside Philadelphia, which is mostly a liberal/democrat area, but PA became a RED state during this election and after the fact, I found out that many people that I was related to or friends with voted for him. I was shocked. It’s something I can’t wrap my head around. At all. Drive about one hour outside of Philly and it’s pretty much the country and TRUMP territory. It’s like we have nothing in common with the conservatives – we are truly a country divided. 🙁 And things just keep getting worse. I am sure I could talk to you about this all day…..I, like you, am a huge Hillary fan, so it’s been a tough pill to swallow. 🙁

  • I am pretty devastated by the election. It gets worse everyday when I see him appointing people whose beliefs are the total opposite of mine, not to mention the opposite of anything good for humanity. I am at an age when he could be the last president in my life and that makes me sad. I would love to see a woman become president in my lifetime and I couldn’t have picked a better one than Hillary. The whole situation is just sad.