Confessions of an Addict [45]: My Bloglovin’ Habits

I’ve used quite a few platforms for following blogs over the years. It’s only recently that I found the best one to use. I am a big fan of Bloglovin’ because it’s so easy to go through my feed. Today, I’d like to talk about MY BLOGLOVIN’ ETIQUETTES. And just to be clear, this is not the general rules. These are MY RULES. So before anyone gets affronted, let’s just establish that first and foremost.

I  don’t discriminate.

If you’re not a book blogger and you follow me, I follow you back. I feel like if you’re nice enough to seek me out and follow me, the least thing I could do is to see what you’ve been up to as well. In the last few months, I’ve been getting followers that are from the beauty and fashion blogosphere. I enjoy reading or watching their how-tos. Outfits of the day posts are fun because I get ideas on how to dress on my own in the morning. Haha. Putting makeup on, though, is a different story. There are not enough tutorials in the world to teach me – I’d always end up looking like Ronald McDonald’s sister. It’s a big world out there with lots to see, learn and experience. So I try not to limit the things that I read from day to day. Though I must say that if you are a fashion and makeup blogger, you’re probably wondering why I don’t contribute much to your post by commenting. Well, let’s just say that I’m an idiot when it comes to those two points of interest. And any comments I may add would be assinine. But hey, keep doing you and ignore me.

I don’t follow blogs.

That is to say,  I don’t follow blogs unless I know the blogger or they follow me first. I know that’s kind of contradictory to my first statement, but let me clarify that. It’s not snobbery, per se. But it’s a matter of laziness. I don’t sift through Bloglovin’ members and decide to mass-follow every single book blogs around. But if you follow me, you can guarantee I’ll follow you. How to keep me as a follower, however,  depends entirely up to you, really.  Some bloggers are under the misconception that creating a readership base begins and ends when you gain followers. It doesn’t. You actually have to work for it. In the same way that you want to know people are reading your blog posts, you need to let them know you appreciate their well-thought out opinions on things. Which brings me to the next guideline:

 I believe in reciprocity.

I am the kind of blogger who generally reciprocate on comments left on my posts. Even if I’m not following your blog or vice versa. Blog relationships are formed through a series of back and forths. I don’t wait for new followers to comment on my posts. In fact, on the same day you follow me, I check your blog and comment on your newest post just to establish a communication between us. It’s my way of saying, thanks for following.

I comment once and disappear.

But if you don’t send me a hey back, you probably won’t be seeing me ever again. That’s just the way my ball rolls. This is what happens to new followers who don’t reciprocate my initial contact. I only have time for bloggers who read my posts. I feel like there are a lot more people out there who appreciate what I write, so if you can’t give me the time of day to comment back, chances are, I’m not coming back to read your posts. There are exceptions to this rule, of course. I’ll always be loyal to bloggers that I personally know and with whom I’ve developed a rapport over the years. I also appreciate those people who take the time to say hello on any social media platforms. I’m not that active on Twitter or Facebook, but when I do pop on there once in a while, say hi to me. I’m the loser-looking girl in the corner nursing a rootbeer. I can name a few bloggers that I interacted with on Twitter that I’ve become a loyal reader of their blogs.

I believe you.

We’ve all been there. When we only have time to draft posts, but not enough to visit blogs.  And this is where establishing blogger relationship is so important. Because when you say real life is kicking your ass at the moment, I will believe you. When you say you need a break and I say that I’ll be here, you can bet your last chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream, that I’ll be here waiting for you.

What about you? What’s your Bloglovin’ Personal Rules and Etiquettes?

  • I got all sniff sniff at the part about cutting bloggers a break when real life kicks their butt. God knows you’ve stayed with me over the years, despite my inconsistency. <3

  • I just saw you followed me on bloglovin. Love your tips. Ive had to put my blogging to the side and I’m slowly getting back into it by at least reading other blogs before I start posting content. Bloglovin is a great platform. BTW I love fashion and beauty blogs too and don’t give up on makeup, girl, lol. I used to have no skills but there are so many tips out there that I slowly without realizing it have learned a bit haha

  • I actually use feedly to follow blogs.
    I agree that reciprocity in the blogosphere is important. Though I’m pretty bad
    at commenting regularly, I usually mass visit blogs and comment when I have enough

  • RO

    Joyous Joy, I had to give you a Recommend on this post because it’s informative, shares more about who you are, it’s on point and honest, dang it and I totally love it and you! Please move you and your family to NC! (lol)BIG Hugs…Ro

  • Reciprocity in the blogosphere is so important, there isn’t enough time to be commenting on lots of blogs that don’t return the favour unfortunately! And if I leave that initial contact and it’s ignored, well chances are I won’t be making that extra effort consistently. I love visiting your blog Joy!

  • I am super picky about who I follow on BL. I don’t have much time to comment so if I follow someone on BL, its because I like their blog and the person and what they have to say.
    I love BL, even though it takes me about 2 weeks to be able to comment, I still do it. I like the interaction and as much as I try not to, I feel shitty if I don’t reply back. Not because I feel like I ‘have’ to, but because I like to 🙂

  • I used to try to go out of my way and follow a lot of new blogs, but it’s just really hard to. And I don’t get a good feel for the blog until I have been following them for a long time (like review styles for example). So finding new ones and making the decision to follow them is really hard.

    I used to use Bloglovin, but now I just use Feedly, which for me is much more organized 🙂 I still follow blogs on bloglovin though because I know how much it seems to some people!

  • I used to use Bloglovin’ a lot more but then my feed got way out of control and I noticed some people never really interacted with me. Like you said, reciprocity is big for me as well. Nowadays I’ll usually only follow a blog(ger) that I’ve interacted with a few times. Nice post!

    • Absolutely. That’s how I’ve met most of the bloggers that I know. 🙂

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  • I personally don’t rely on Bloglovin because I’m a lazy moose. But you’re exactly right when it comes down to establishing blogger relationships by returning comments. The number of followers doesn’t matter all that much if nobody is reading/commenting on your material. Lovely post, Joy. A really good reminder!

    • Thanks, Kynndra. I found that the hard way. And now that I’ve considered visiting blogs a normal part of my routine, it doesn’t sound so daunting.

  • I used to be horrible about visiting other blogs and I am sorry for that. I have had a blog for 3 years but only recently started really making an effort to visit other blogs. I am really trying to see everything that happens on the blogs that I follow but real life just doesn’t always make it possible. Thanks for this post – it really gives me something to think about.

    • Totally understandable. I’ve been blogging for close to 5 years now, and I’ve only recently discovered how important it is to visit blogs on a regular basis. So yeah, there were a couple of years there that I would go days and a hundred of posts without receiving any comments. And that made me sad because I felt like no one was reading, you know?

  • Wow, our rules are almost the same. I usually instantly follow back although I don’t always instantly comment. I will get around to it when I have the time though. I’m pretty big on the whole back and fourth thing as well – I find that important for establishing a readership and I like that I can make a friendship with people through that as well. So when I can, I have a few blogs I will follow regardless of whether they comment back or not (because I just really LIKE their posts. Yours is one of them, actually) and then there are others where I need a little back and fourth to keep me coming back.

    • Thank you, Olivia. I have quite a few bloggers that I follow and comment regardless as well (yours, including). I think that once the back and forth has commence between bloggers, a friendship follows. That’s why it’s so important.

  • I used to ALWAYS follow back, but I will confess that I’ve gotten a LITTLE bit choosier lately when my Bloglovin’ feed just got to be outrageous and it wasn’t really useful anymore (thank goodness for folders!). And I don’t follow back non-bookish blogs because I just know I won’t read them. I DO try to always comment back, though – but I admit that just recently I’ve been struggling with finding the time for everything and I’ve been failing at this. I do think it’s a season, though, and it’s nice to know that there are bloggers like you out there who understand when we have weeks where we just can’t keep up with it all!!

    • Oh totally, Nicole. I’m just able to visit more consistently nowadays because I’ve got plenty of time on my hands. But even before then, I always make it a point to never go days without checking out my feed on Bloglovin. It’s easy to lose track and get behind once I go past the two-day period I allot for missed days.

  • Great rules! Bloglovin’ doesn’t work that well for me, so I just use my blog roll to keep track of blogs. I comment and follow back when someone does the same to me, ect.

    • How so? That’s too bad. I really find it very handy to use. As for the blogroll, I used to have one of those, but it got too long too fast and sometimes, I don’t know whether or not I’ve already read the post or not. But, to each to their own. Whatever works, right?

  • I couldn’t get Bloglovin’ to work for me, so sometimes I feel like I’m missing out since it’s such a huge platform that many other book bloggers use. I kind of do miss that following aspect. Especially since I’ll occasionally receive an e-mail telling me someone has followed me on Bloglovin’ (from when I used it waaaaaay back in the day), and I don’t really have a way to reciprocate the favor outside of at least checking out their blog in hopes I find a post I can leave a worthwhile comment on.

    I believe in reciprocity too, but it’s something I struggle to really achieve it 100%. I love the “back and forth” that you mention. To me it’s such an important way to develop relationships in the blogosphere. And while I try to always leave a comment with a blogger who took the time to say something to me, sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes I just don’t know what to say. I used to be so good at it. I would always visit another commenter’s site and leave them a little note. Before it was even something bloggers wrote about in blogging etiquette posts. I mean, I’d say I’m at 75%, but…I’d really like to push it up a little, you know?

    • For me, once I have gotten to know a blogger, I still make it a point to visit and comment even though they sometimes don’t (or can’t). I have plenty of time in my hands right now, so I’m able to visit on a consistent basis. We’ll see how it goes once I get busy again. But I do understand that most bloggers don’t have the time. 🙂

  • Honestly I don’t worry about the follow me/you thing, but I do follow a person who comments and follows me. That just makes sense to me. I also try to reciprocate comments. I think that is just courtesy. Plus, I get to know bloggers that way and find great blogs! 🙂

    • And you shouldn’t have to. But I do like to establish guidelines for myself because that’s the only way I will be able to keep track of everyone. 🙂

  • I totally love your post here, Joy. I agree with everything you have down.

    And yay for you joining #FitReaders! It’s really helpful to have friends to chat with about fitness. It’s helps to motivate me. You are so right, our obsession with books is not really conducive to an active lifestyle, but audio-books can see us through some of that! See, a sensible solution. 🙂

    • Yes! Which is great, because I’ve been obsessed with spending my time wisely even though I’m unemployed at the moment. I feel like audiobooks can help with that. I just need snow to melt so I can do my walks outside. It’s pretty boring when I spend my walking time on a treadmill in the basement of my house. Lol.

  • Ah, I love this post so, so much Joy. <3 You are amazing. I love reading everything that you write. And I love following you 🙂 I love that you always comment. <3 You are awesome. And so kind. I don't comment on that many new blogs, sadly.. but that is because I comment on so many that I already know and love, and I comment on all their posts, and I spend so much time each day commenting, and it is killing my fingers a bit. Ack. Need to take breaks sometimes, hih 🙂 But anyway. I adore everything you wrote here. Thank you for sharing about it all sweet girl 🙂 I also love bloglovin, but I must say that I never use it to see blog posts. I use Feedly, hih 🙂 Because I don't follow only blogs, but some other pages too, that I doubt I can find on bloglovin. 🙂

    • Oh you know I’ll always visit you, Carina. <3 You are the sweetest. ^.^

  • Jenny @ Supernatural Snark

    I’m big on reciprocity too Joy, it’s actually the part of blogging that takes the most time (aside from reading) for me! Every morning I try and comment on all my regular blogs, and every once in a while I stumble across a new one that quickly becomes a favorite, but all in all it usually takes me over an hour to comment. It’s one of my favorite parts of blogging though, and the way I’ve both “met” and met so many fabulous people!

    • It doesn’t take a lot of time, really. It’s when we neglect to check Bloglovin’ days at a time when it gets too much. So nowadays, I always make it a point to keep my missed days to two. Otherwise, it gets quite crazy pretty fast.

  • kindlemom1

    I couldn’t agree more with all of these, I do that same things and Bloglovin’ is amazing! Finally all the blogs I want to follow in one area, so nice!!

    • It is great. I used to have GFC, but I found it hard to keep track of everyone.

  • We have the same habits although I need to work on the follow backs. I haven’t sifted through my list in a long time.

    I like beauty accounts too but I follow them more on IG than on their blogs. As for the comments, I tend to stop leaving any of I have to make the first move all the time. Like you said, reciprocity and it’s not a conducive relationship for me if I have to initiate contact every time just to get you to visit me.

    • I’m one of those, one-chance kind of girl so I don’t mind initiating contact with those who follow me first. Like I said, if they don’t reciprocate, then I’m not coming back. Though, that doesn’t mean I unfollow them right away. I just don’t come back to visit them, that’s all.

  • I follow the same rules just about! I follow most blogs back that follow me. And if a blogger is taking the time to read my posts and leave a comment, I make sure to visit their blog and do the same thing! It’s just the nice thing to do, and I appreciate every person who reads my stuff and takes time to interact with me. 🙂

    • I must say that it’s taken me almost three years to figure out that unless I put myself out there, no one is going to keep reading my post if I don’t return the favour. I scratch your back, you scratch mine. 🙂

  • I feel very much the same way. I’ve gone to some blogs and I’ve commented and commented several times and I never see or hear from them. I don’t always expect a reciprocal comment for comment, but I do expect that if someone is a regular visitor, you should be too. Sometimes, comments might come in batches. There might be times of radio silence for a bit if things are hectic, but I don’t stay gone for long. I use bloglovin to follow blogs. I have them grouped together based on people who are my closest friends and followers. Then I might have other blogs that I might want to follow, but not as closely in other groups. I have authors in a group too. That has really helped my sanity.

    Melanie @ Hot Listens & Rabid Reads

    • Oh I must try and implement that organization method. Lately, I’ve been clicking READ more than I’ve been reading posts. I think it’s time to organize those I follow the same way.

  • Denise Baer

    Hello! I saw your comment on Olivia’s post, so I thought I’d stop on by and see what’s going on. What a surprise! I felt as if I wrote your bloglovin rules and etiquette. I do the same. Sometimes I don’t put people on my blog archive list right away, until I establish a connection with them. I’ve added and removed so many blogs from my list because people either stopped commenting on my blog posts (I don’t think they’re that boring), or they don’t blog consistently. It’s nice to come across someone who has the same, shall we say, courtesies. 😀 Have a great day!

    Sorry, I’m leaving my comment as a guest, because I’m weird about other apps taking over my information.

    • Thank you for visiting! I do the same with blogs that just follow mine and neglects to comment. I don’t unfollow them right away. I’m also the type of person who looks at someone’s followers numbers and use that for consideration when I’m cleaning up. If someone has only a few followers, I don’t unfollow because…I’m nice? Lol. Not really. I just feel bad about unfollowing that’s all.

  • Ohh I like that. When someone follows me I should head over and say hi. I am afraid I keep waiting for THEM to make the first contact and then I follow back and comment. I am always so, why do you follow my blog, do you read it? Cos I sure never see you around.

    Though I am afraid I would discriminate, fashion, just no, sure once in a while but every day no 😉

    • Don’t feel bad if they don’t respond back. You’ve done your best to initiate contact, so what if they don’t say anything back? Their loss for not keeping you. 🙂

  • Melliane

    AH yes I agree with you even if I don’t really do bloglovin, I’m trying so if someone follow not sure I’ll follow back but if someones tells me or else I’ll do it because I’ll see it.

    • So what’s been working for you, Melliane? Do you just have a list of blogs you follow and visit them everyday? Honestly, it’s so easy, but I understand if it’s not your thing. 🙂

  • ari

    This is a lovely post! I agree with replying to comments, I feel like we’re all in this to talk to like-minded people about what we love – books!! xx

    • Thank you, Ari. I don’t know if you’re a blogger or not, but I appreciate you stopping by and reading my post. <3

  • I have a horrible time getting to read and comment on all the blogs I follow. That’s why sometimes I end up commenting on several of your blog posts at the same time. Just trying to get caught up. I usually have well over 40-60 blog emails sitting in my inbox at any given moment but I do try. I think what you do is very fair 🙂

    • Hahah! I know what you mean. I always look forward to your massive commenting spree. <3 Oh but that's going to drive me crazy! 40-60 blog emails?! Gah. Your a patient woman.