Confessions of an Addict [39]: Where Have All My Bookmarks Gone?


It always happens. You could’ve sworn there was a book mark in there somewhere. But as you’re about to mark your page, the blasted bookmark is gone.

Do you use the nearest thing to you to mark your page? Do you ever wonder where your bookmarks go? To someone like me, bookmarks are like socks that go missing in the wash. They just disappear into the thin air. I had a moment of Eureka last weekend when I was trying to find a bookmark and couldn’t find any.

Today, I’d like to talk about the books sitting beside my bed. Those that I’ve started and have been reading off an on for a while now. In total, I have found that I’ve marked a total of 19 books during the course of a few months. Nineteen bookmarks marking where I left off. Admittedly, I can’t even begin to tell you what was happening in the books when I last picked them up, and I probably have to start over with some of them. Okay, most of them.

There could be a multitude of reasons why I start and stop in the midst of a novel. Sometimes, I just lose interest. Unfortunately, I’ve lost the will to read some of them. I suppose you can consider this my “set-aside-for-now” pile. And the reason why I haven’t DNF’d a book yet this year. I’ve not entirely given up, but I’ve set them aside for now because I refuse to give up. Incidentally, this list also includes the books I’m reading now. So I guess you can say, I’ve got 16 books on my set-aside pile.

My interest flits from the one book to the next. Nowadays, my reason is usually because I have to read something for review before I could read something for pure pleasure. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing because the books I get for review are books that I actually want to read in the first place.

The problem is, there are books being published every week. And every week that these books are left fermenting beside my bed is another week when aΒ most-anticipated novel gets published. In other words, the further along they sit in the bottom of the TBR pile. Β I do feel like I should make an effort at least. Perhaps use my credit from Audible to listen to them if I can’t get to them Β right away. For now, I’m going to try my best to add at least one of these books in my On the Night Table post until I read all of them. Either way, this is such a bad habit I need to break.

  • OBASAN by Joy Kogawa, Chapter 3, page 28.
  • EVERYTHING, EVERYTHING by Nicola Yoon, page 197 of an ARC paperback.
  • LAST YEAR’S MISTAKE by Gina Ciocca, page 73 of an ARC paperback.
  • INFINITE SKY by C.J. Flood Chapter 11, page 85 of an ARC paperback.
  • WAIT FOR YOU by J. Lynn Chapter 9, page 90
  • AND THE HIPPOS WERE BOILED IN THEIR TANKS by Jack Kerouac and William S. Burroughs Chapter 4, page 41
  • THE RAVEN by Sylvain Reynard Chapter 10, page 85
  • BLACK CITY by Elizabeth Richards Chapter 8, page 63
  • THE END OF YOUR LIFE BOOK CLUB by Will Schwalbe, Seventy Verses on Emptiness, page 28
  • THE QUEEN OF BRIGHT AND SHINY THINGS by Ann Aguirre Chapter 5, page 49
  • THE INFINITE MOMENT OF US by Lauren Myracle Chapter 3, page 47
  • THE BURNING SKY by Sherry Thomas Chapter 9, page 160
  • GLORY IN DEATH by JD Robb Chapter 2, page 45
  • PRINCESS OF THORNS by Stacey Jay Chapter 4, page 43
  • THIS IS A CALL [The Life and Times of Dave Grohl] Chapter 3, page 69
  • CHE by Jon Lee Anderson Chapter 5, page 75
  • THE LITTLE PARIS BOOKSHOP by Nina George Chapter 7, page 47
  • THE NEW NEIGHBOUR by Leah Stewart Chapter 7, page 31
  • THE HUSBAND’S SECRET by Liane Moriarty Chapter 8, page 83




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  • I FEEL YOU BRUH. My bookmarks mysteriously disappear no matter how many times I make sure that I’ve placed them in the book properly. Thankfully, I can’t read more than one book at once. I religiously update my Goodreads, and even though you might find 6 books on my Currently Reading shelf, rest assured I’m only reading one and the rest are only queued up πŸ™‚

  • I can totally relate. Let me see, right now I’m 40-50 pages into North and South, Moonshot, 20 or so pages into The Silence of the Lambs and The Once And Future King, and halfway through The Phantom Tollbooth, which is a children’s story and should’ve only taken me an hour or two to read! I’m totally awful about starting books and letting my attention flit elsewhere almost immediately. As long as I was *finishing* books, this wouldn’t be so much of a problem, but … Eek. I should be reading right now!

    • Hahahah! There are so many things in life that distracts us from reading. So I don’t doubt that there’s a lot more of us who has a million books on the go at once. πŸ™‚ Thanks for visiting!

  • i get so stressed on Tuesdays realising it’s another week with new releases and MORE books I need to read. Lol. You have so many books Joy! Maybe you should consider the DNF method for a few of them? :/

  • ohmy, that’s a lot! What I usually tell myself is that, I won’t pick a new book unless I finish my current read. Which is why so far, I only have one (physical) book that I’ve set on-hold… Hope you finish these books soon! πŸ˜€

  • OMG so many books left unfinished! The Burning Sky and Princess of Thorns are two of my favorites though so I hope you finish them some day!

  • I try to finish a book before moving onto the next, I really don’t like moving onto another one before starting another. At least you’ve found some bookmarks!!

    Naomi @ Naomi’s Reading Palace

  • I’m going to state the obvious and very quietly point out that that is a lot of books, Joy. A lot.

    I totally have that bookmark problem, but I have a box full of them so it’s never too much of an issue… only when I can’t be bothered to go and get one, then I go all out with sticky marks, bits of manuscripts, ect. Any paper I can happily tear a piece off.
    I not someone who is worried about DNFing. I used to be, but I spend so much of my time with books and I know what I like and I know there are hundreds of thousands of books out there that will be glorious for me, so I just don’t bother to stick along with something I’m really disliking. I’m really glad I got to that point, because before I always used to feel awful about not finishing a review copy or whatever.

    I like your idea for managing this pile of books! I’m hoping at least half of them will end up being pretty enjoyable reads for you. xx

  • I am actually pretty good when it comes to my bookmarks and usually I don’t lose them. I do remember using a piece of toilet roll once though, and I remember a friend calling me out on that one and buying me a bookmark simply for the sake of it.

    I do think that it’s okay to pause a book, but if you just know you’ll never get to it, then do put it down. I have a medieval mystery book that is really hitting the backburner but I am reading it slowly. I don’t know what I will do with it yet…

  • Joy you’re not the only one to do this, I have such a bad habit of doing this lately too, I think this is largely because of the big mood reader that I’ve become, for instance I started An Ember in the Ashes a few weeks ago, but I just couldn’t get into it, but hopefully it will work out for me a second time around when I start it tonight. Good luck reducing your pile Joy and finding your bookmarks!

  • My bookmarks too disappear more than my 6 and 3 year old sock matches as well, and you know thats saying something, lol

  • I have an even worse bookmark confession to make: I tend to um, sometimes chew on them while I’m reading. So they end up rather disintegrated, haha. Or I play with them non-stop in my one hand while I’m reading, and then they fall apart. Eeek!

    I also find myself reading more than one book at a time – I juggle around 3 or 4 at a time. But if I find myself unable to move further on in a book, it’s usually a sign I should DNF.

  • Stunning post Joy. <3 But aw, I'm sorry you keep losing your bookmarks πŸ™‚ That doesn't sound like fun. I only use one when reading, and I always know where it is, hih ;p But then, I only read print books in one spot, hah. And aw, I'm sorry you have had to put so many books on hold πŸ™ That is never fun. Still heartbroken that you didn't want to read more of The Burning Sky :p Such a favorite trilogy of mine, hih. <3 Anyway. Best of luck with your bookmarks and reading πŸ˜‰

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  • I get you so much, omg. I’ve lost so many bookmarks to the point that I’d rather just use weird stuff that I can immediately reach like a make up brush, or a tweezer or a folded paper towel or my cat’s tail. Hahaha! Sometimes, I’ll end up just holding the book with my finger stuck in between as a bookmark, until I find something “acceptable” to use.

    And I absolutely understand not wanting to DNF a book because sometimes I feel like it’s due to circumstances I’m in that I wasn’t able to finish a book. I’ve got 5 books on my “I’ll get back to you later” pile, lol. πŸ˜€

  • I REALLY understand you, Joy. I often lose my bookmarks and the scraps of paper I use as “bookmarks” (I have no idea if we have house elves that take them to shove into their own books) AND I have a huge will-try-again-next-time pile. I’m really *trying* not to DNF books anymore, but sometimes I don’t feel like continuing and just say, “I’ll finish this some other time,” which sucks because often, I don’t go back to them any more. Ever.

    Personally I wouldn’t recommend you to return to Last Year’s Mistake (that book and I did not get along), but *please* do continue Princess of Thorns. It gets better, I promise. πŸ˜‰

  • I ran into this problem a few days ago when I was reading and couldn’t find a bookmark. Apparently I have a terrible habit of leaving them in books even after I finish them so I have no idea where they could be unless I happen to get a book out and discover one being in there. When you pick up a book that you started reading awhile ago do you pick up where you left off or start over?

  • Christy

    Oh man, I can’t do that. I can go between two books, but even that bothers me. I like to complete what I’m reading before taking my attention elsewhere. As for bookmarks … when I do need one, I use a business card. I’ve never really used bookmarks. I collected them when I was younger, but didn’t want them to get messed up. So I just used paper or something. lol. So weird.

  • I’ve used strange things as book marks: a napkin, old receipt, pen, glasses, magazine subscription card. But now that doesn’t happen very often because I rarely read physical books anymore.

    Onto starting and then setting aside a read, I start and stop books if I’m unsure of my reading mood, and I pick up a book that doesn’t meet what I’m looking for. I hate the feeling. But I will DNF a book that I’ve read for a while and I just know I’ll never get into it.

  • Oi! I think a lot of us can relate to your bookish woes. I actually envy some readers, those who can multi-read several books all at the same time. That would happen to me once in a while, especially when I have tour stops, and what-not, but I can’t do it all the time. Like you, I lose interest when I get derailed reading a book. I have to finish it or decide to DNF before I move on to another one.

    P.S. Funny I don’t use my bookmarks/swag, I collect them like baseball cards. I use random pieces of papers, dress tags, paperclips, etc. to mark my pages.

  • I have this problem. I will swear up and down I want to read a book, kill myself to get it, and it will sit on my “shelf” for a year and more. I think I have a book buying/borrowing/requesting problem. I’m well over 50 books on my Edelweiss and Netgalley. I’ve just started making moves to get through them. It’s such a tough thing because like you I’m a mood reader. I read whatever tickles my fancy. What I might have liked a month ago, may not be what I’m looking for in the next month. Good luck with all your reads, you’re not alone! πŸ™‚

  • Joy, you poor dear. That’s a big pile of books to be ‘currently reading’. I dare say that some of them might need to be thrown into the ‘need to reassess reading choices’ pile instead. I have a similar shelf on my bookshelf. The backburner I call it. Ones I’ve started and just couldn’t get into. There’s 10 on mine. But I don’t keep my page marked, because by the time I’ll get around to reading them, I’ll have to start again anyway. I have a whole lot of paper card bookmarks from bookshops where I’ve purchased, but just one main one for my current read. I absolutely love it

    I’m always looking at gorgeous bookmarks though, now your post has me opening eBay in another window to start shopping. You’re such an enabler πŸ˜€ <3

  • Goodness Joy! I would be so stressed like all the time if I had that many books waiting on me to read. That has to be stressful doesn’t it? The reason I DNF (and I only did it once) was because I really couldn’t bear to finish it anyway. As far as bookmarks… man I haven’t used one of those in ages. And no. No I don’t do doggy ear pages. Hehe

  • Seriously, I found one of my favourite bookmarks from when I went to see the SmartChicks panel a couple of years ago and by the time I finished the book I was using it for.. the bookmark was gone. πŸ™ It’s hard.

    As for setting aside books, I have no issues with DNF-ing, so a lot of the time if I decide I’ve read enough of the book to mark it as DNF I do just that. Otherwise, I drop it and forget I ever wanted to read it. But I can also see why this would be a lot easier for me as most o f my books are borrowed.. I like to think that I would try harder for the ones I own… maybe.

  • Such a accurate post! LOL I usually try to keep track of my bookmarks but it usually ends up me using something random. SOO MUCH BOOKS! So can get through them πŸ™‚

    Happy Reading
    Patrick @ The Bookshelves

  • I can never find a bookmark when I need one, so I usually use a hair elastic or a bobby pin. I don’t know if that’s normal, but I use those far more often than I use anything else.

  • Wow, so many books. Good luck on reading & I do agree with you, If i have avoided a book and stopped reading it, chances are I’m not interested in it anymore.. I always lose my bookmarks too, I only have 5 left which makes me so sad :/ Sometimes, I just end up sticking a paper in the book. Awesome post though!

  • I donΒ΄t buy bookmarks, so all the bookmarks IΒ΄ve are either from bookdepository or from my local bookstore and when I need one is kind of a scavenger hunt….so sometime I end up using whatever is at hand to use. (receipts, tags or starbucks pick of the week card).
    Great post.

  • RO

    Joy this a fantastic topic and one I can totally relate to! I’ve really been trying hard ot maintain my my bookmarks so I don’t resort to picking up a bill, stray piece of paper or something else that probably shouldn’t be in a book! (lol) If we’re reading several books at a time, that’s the best way to try to keep it all together. Alas, like you, if I stay away from the book from too long, I have to go back to the beginning to remember what in the heck is going on. Trying to limit the reading to 2 books a time, but it’s rough. Hugs…Ro

  • Lauren Becker

    I’m usually in the middle of at least two or three books at any given time, but I know what you mean about certain books getting pushed back because you’re just not feeling it at the time. I hope you can get through some of these soon though. There are a few that look really good, like Everything Everything.


  • Now that is a question I’d like to have an answer to as well. I wonder where all my bookmarks have gone too!
    I don’t struggle with books that I started and don’t finish like you mostly because I only read one book at a time and if I feel like I don’t like it within the first 10 chapters, I just DNF and remove it from my TBR.
    I bet it’s a hard habit to break though.

  • Argh, I do this too! I don’t have a list quite that long, but there are at least two books (Pillars of the Earth and The Crow Road) which I’ve been ‘reading’ for more than six months. I really do want to finish them, but I choose shorter books instead because I can finish them sooner and writer reviews. I really need to kick myself out of this habit!
    Michelle @ The Unfinished Bookshelf

  • I have no idea what happened to my bookmarks. Although now I am making a habit of quickly flipping through the pages of library books that I’ve returned, I’ve managed to salvage a few that I’ve left in upon finishing the book lol. Good luck for reading these!

  • 0_0 I am reading 3 books at once. An audio I listen to once a month. Ebook I read only at work and a print at home. You are crazy πŸ˜€

    But bookmarks, oh they fly on the wind

  • I do this all the time, both with starting numerous books at once and with losing bookmarks. Really, is there a bookmark gremlin running around?

  • I normally try not to touch more than 3 books at a time but it is hard when you lose interest in the ones you’re already reading :S I LOVE bookmarks! I try to use a different one every time I switch a book~~

    How’s Princess of Thorns? I really want to get that one πŸ˜€

  • wow too many books, I don’t know how you’re doing it, 2 is the limit for me I confess, maybe 3 but that’s really rare.