[508]: We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

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GOODREADS SUMMARY | Anchor | Paperback, 65pp. | February 3rd, 2015 | Non-fiction | 5 stars


This is not so much as a review, but a narrative of  what being a feminist means to me.

Truth be told, I’ve never been one to admit publicly that I am a feminist. Shameful, I know. But up until a couple of years ago, my impression of the word held a negative connotation. Whenever I hear of the feminist movement, I always have a vision of a group of women burning their bras and aggression manifested towards men in general. Would you believe me if I said that my voracious appetite for US politics finally brought into light what being a feminist really means? That the endless debates about fair pay is the catalyst to an eye-opening that’s been a long time coming?

If you must now, I have a liberal stand when it comes to social and economic views of the world. Having liberal beliefs make the most sense to me. I’m not partial to being constricted to conservative policies.  And from what I can surmised, the denial that there is no such thing as a pay gap between sexes is popular among conservatives (along with global warming deniers).  But, I digress.

We’ve come a long way from those times when a man earning less than a woman makes them less of a man. Far from those days when a woman is forced to stay at home to take care of the children. There are women who chose to bear children through non-conventional methods. They raise them as a single parent by choice. And yet even with these strides, women still bear the negativity that comes from raising children in a non-traditional familial structure. Some may even have to deal with ridicule. Still, the fact that we are more accepting to the reality that women CAN raise a family on their own shows how far we’ve come.

This is Ndiche’s speech at TEDxEuston in December of 2012. Can I be frank and say that had it not been to Beyoncè’s song, FLAWLESS, I’d never known of this speech. But who really cares where one finds their moment of realization or awakening? Ndiche’s speech about the meaning of feminism eloquently and succinctly erases all the negative connotations associated with the word. She explains all the bad sexist habits we’ve developed and continually nurture over the years.

This slight book is an eye-opener; an education for every man, woman, and child (it’s never too early to start). As parents, I can only hope to set an example. That my children’s capabilities should never be dictated by their sexes. But we’re also trying to be careful. Because feminism is never about competition between sexes. It’s not about girls besting boys.  It is a belief that we are all equally capable.